Keep the change

I have always wondered since I was a kid, why couldn't my family be more financially stable. I had starved before. I had been through many a time when the whole family were only allowed to have instant noodles and eggs for meals. We were so helpless, we couldn't afford anything else. Besides food, we had issues for our shelter, too. For a family of five, I remember we had to share a nine square meter room. We were always moving around, because we couldn't come out with the money to pay the rent. There was a time, when we came home and found out that our key couldn't fit the lock. The homeowner changed the lock. We were told to pay up or leave. My sister and I were so young we couldn't help in anything financially. When our mother cried, we cried. When her knelt down, we knelt down, too. Yes, it shouldn't take a genius to figure out who was in charge of sustaining the family. It was my father. And he sucked at it. 

Our financial situation was getting better ever since I grown up, but things haven't really gotten much better.

I'm able to sustain myself from planing my expenses ahead so to not have to ask for help from others. None of my family members are doing that. They have been occasionally out of money and needed help from others. They are always in debt. I really hate when they do that. I always think, with careful planning, you can avoid loaning. I'm not saying loaning is bad, as long as you are using the money to try and make more money. Not use it to fill up the holes made from mindless spending. It will only create more holes that need to be filled. I've told them my concern, the " holes filling theory", but they seemed to not put much thought into it and continued to do it their way. 

I've not come out a way to solve the problem. Trying to be financially stable, at the same time trying to show them the way to do it is the closest thing I can think of. In the mean time, I'll just have to be annoyed and angry whenever they need help in money again.